Announcing “Heal or Die (2nd Edition)”
Let me be the first to share the exciting news: the second edition of my book, “Heal or Die” is now available on Amazon! I know, I know. I couldn’t let it alone. I just had to improve it. That’s…
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I help people and organizations win the war on complex illness
by applying military intelligence frameworks
to improve health, wellness, and human services outcomes.
Services for Organizations
For health, wellness, and human services organizations including insurance companies. healthcare systems, government agencies, disease and patient associations, and more…
Keynote speech: Win the War on Complex Illness which describes one of the Four Steps to Winning a War that your team can apply to improve complex illness outcomes.
Health Intelligence Consulting: Help your team apply all Four Steps to Winning a War to improve complex illness outcomes in your healthcare, wellness, or human services organization.
Services for Individuals
For people navigating complex illness, their caregivers, and supporters, patient associations, Veteran and civic organizations, and more…
Keynote speech: Heal or Die – an inspiring, practical story of overcoming complex illness empowering people to take control of their healing journey.
Coaching: Care Curation Coaching to help complex illness overcomers more successfully navigate their healing journey. By sharing the complex illness frameworks I developed to navigate my own healing journey, I teach people how to curate their own care to overcome complex illnesses.
Blog: I share the lessons I’ve learned while healing from complex post-traumatic stress disorder, chronic fatigue, medical injury, and developmental illness—all while building a vibrant, purpose-driven life.
New Book
The 2nd edition is available on Amazon now!
Read, cry, laugh, tell your friends.
Latest Reviews
“Such a real, raw, transformative book that totally changed my perspective on the healing journey.” ~Satisfied customer
“If you want to keep God in a box, this book is not for you.” ~L. Otero
“I am so blessed by this fantastic book…[which] is so valuable and provides deep support.” ~Amelia
My husband and I are on a mission to transform the U.S. care ecosystem to improve complex illness health outcomes. Check out Benes Companies.
Daughter of God & Impactpreneur
Wife & Mom
Combat Veteran & Retiring Army Intelligence Officer
What People Have Said…
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“Your approach to wholeness is so holistic and practical that everybody who hears your story knows they can get better, too.”
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"Tenay has this ability to absolutely provide words of encouragement, even those maybe hard to hear, with love, kindness and grace. She has a love for people and such a desire to see them succeed..."
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"Tenay is one of the smartest and most capable people I’ve worked with. Her capacity to learn, her strategic thinking, and her ability to translate ideas into results make her an asset in any environment."
Dive Into My Latest Projects
Learn the practical lessons I’ve used to overcome complex post-traumatic stress, chronic illness, and medical injury, and discover how to thrive in your own healing journey. The 3rd edition expands on the Four Steps to Winning a War on Complex Illness.
Join me as I interview people navigating complex illness on my “Healing Journeys” series in The Care We Need Podcast. Each episode uncovers actionable strategies, inspiring stories, and insights that help you or your organization win the war on complex illness.
Watch selected keynotes, podcasts, and talks that show how I engage audiences, share actionable insights, and inspire transformation. Perfect for organizations or individuals who want a preview of what a live event with me looks like.
Check Out My Latest Blog Posts
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When It’s All Too Much
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Donate to Celebrate
Help me celebrate my medical retirement from the Army due to PTSD by donating to this amazing Veteran fund at the Rocky Mountain Hyperbaric Association for Brain Injuries, where I’ve been getting free treatment again!
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Celebrate My Blog Stats With Me
This blog was born in June 2021.
As of 25 January 2026,
it has:
231 Published posts
433 Draft posts
Since I transferred this blog to a new hosting platform in January 2025,
it has enjoyed:
2,269 Visitors
3,394 Views
Frequently Asked Questions
If I have prayed for you on the street & you’d like to find out more about what you experienced or how you can stay healed, please go to the Frequently Asked Questions page. You can also find answers to the most commonly asked questions about C-PTSD & trauma healing there.